Dear Cheater,
What do I have to say for you to stay loyal to me? Do you not find me interesting? I need you to try and see it my way. I find myself doing everything to please you and following your demands, yet you discard me. I thought you, out of all people, would understand. Yes, like any person I have made mistakes in the past, but I try to correct them to please you and the rest of the world. Why are you so impressed with those others, who do not share your interests or thoughts. I want you to change your mind. Come back to me! The fact is, without you I have nothing but ideas in my head. I just need you to listen to me, otherwise my writing is meaningless.
From, Your Jealous Author
Writing, like love, is wonderful, but it can be quite frightening. In dating you have to put yourself out there and be yourself. This can be dangerous because of the assumption others will have about you. This is the same in writing. According to Joan Didion, an American author, writing is “the act of saying I, of imposing oneself upon other people, of saying listen to me, see it my way, change your mind.” When putting fourth one’s ideas it can be intimidating, there is always this fear of rejection and that your opinions and viewpoint will not be excepted. Jacques Derrida, a well known 21st century philosopher, said in an interview that his subconscious thought that his ideas were too bizarre and offensive and that he should not be writing them. However without him taking the risk of exposing his theories, the world wouldn’t have known. One of his theories is deconstruction, which is actually him teaching us how his mind works. It is analyzing text and interpreting it’s alternative meaning.
As writers, we try to please the reader by writing safe. Joan Didion, tells us in her article Why I Write, that she tried to follow Derrida’s theory of deconstruction and failed. She described it as “trying to think” and not being able to “think in abstract.” She would get distracted and write what is considered inoffensive. Because of the intimidation of being yourself when dating someone, people tend to try to be the person they think that person would like. We do this in writing also. In school we have grammar rules and set topics that we write about. Academic writing is about information and thoughts on another authors work. There is no room for being thinking outside the box. Students find it dangerous to use a different font size let alone to write something abstract.
Do you have any advice for those of us starting out? Just like dating location is key. If you go to a crowded restaurant, with so many distractions, it might be difficult to have an intimate meal with the other person. If you go to a private more secluded restaurant it could be more expensive. Ron Koertge, who wrote the poem Do You Have Any Advice For Those of Us Just Starting Out?, says that to write you should leave your house or apartment and “go out into the world.” In the poem he makes small statements about childlike things. For instance having a notebook with a kitten or spaceship on the cover. He also says that the library is a good place to write next to the aisle to see a child playing. Koertge says, “be like the child… laugh so loud everybody in the world frowns and says, ‘shhh’.” Children have huge imaginations and come up with ideas a grown human being would not think of. This is Koertge’s way of saying, when writing have a child’s imagination. So put yourself in a childlike environment and the feelings and memories will follow.
I find writing difficult, because I do not know how to captivate the reader and to make them want to listen to me. I have always tried to write what I think the readers would want to read. Didion, Derrida, and Koertge have shown that readers want something new and different. To think in abstract or like a child, brings about a new perspective for audience.